Want to make a good impression on a date or in everyday communication? Then pay attention to things that, according to scientists, can affect how people perceive you.
10. Do not cross your arms
According to a 2016 study, those who use “body language” to demonstrate "closeness" look less attractive to other people.
- Researchers have created two sets of profiles for men and women in one of the popular dating apps. In one set, men and women took a “closed” position (they crossed arms on their chests or wrapped their arms around their shoulders).
- Another set showed people in expansive poses (they showed the “V” sign with their fingers or extended their hand to grab something).
- The results showed that those who were in an expansive pose were chosen much more often than those who held the clutched and “unsociable” pose.
9. Some people like it hotter
Interesting results were obtained by a study conducted by employees of St. Cloud State University in Minnesota. They found that for women who ate something spicy, male sexual attractiveness increased immediately by 20%.
The authors of the study believe that this is due to the concept of embodied knowledge, based on the complex relationship between sensory-motor experience and behavior, the emotional sphere and decision making.
8. Make fewer grammar mistakes in correspondence
One study found that most men and women reject online grooms and brides solely because of grammatical errors in their dating profiles. And 75% of the 9,000 people who posted their profiles on dating sites admitted that they would reject anyone who writes with errors typical of fifth grade high school.
7. Red - the color of attraction
The perception of color is very subjective. And yet there is a color that most men find very sexy. Of course, you have already guessed what color we are talking about.
Red is perceived as an indicator of sexual readiness. Researchers believe that this may have something to do with the natural mechanisms of the female body, showing interest in a partner. For example, a woman may blush while communicating with an interesting man. Or during sexual affection.
Hence the conclusion: if you want to be more attractive to men - wear red.
6. Danger brings together
In the 70s of the last century, social psychologists Donald Dutton and Arthur Aron studied the relationship between a sense of danger and sexual desire.
The test men were supposed to pass on the suspension and high bridge of Capilano, or on a low and reliable. At the end of the bridge and on the bridge itself, an assistant psychologist approached them, asked a few questions and left her phone number “in case of additional questions”.
It turned out that those who dared to cross the high bridge called her more often than the men who crossed the low bridge. Researchers attributed this to the “attribution error of excitation." That is, a sense of danger led to the appearance of excitement. However, men took him for a sexual attraction.
So if you want to make an unforgettable date, invite her or him to one of the worst rides in the world. At the same time, check to see if your steel nerves are vis-a-vis.
5. Try to get enough sleep
Lack of sleep affects our appearance and emotions. As well as how other people perceive us.
In a study conducted in 2010, scientists from Sweden and the Netherlands photographed several people who slept for at least eight hours the night before, as well as those who did not sleep for 31 hours. Then a group of 65 people aged 18 to 61 was asked to rate which pictures they like best. Photos were presented at random.
People deprived of sleep were rated as unsympathetic in all directions. Participants in the study reported that they had “wide eyelids, red eyes, dark circles under the eyes, and pale skin.” They also noted that people lacking sleep look sadder than their better-rested colleagues.
4. Come on the right
Surely you know that the left and right hemispheres of the brain work differently. And each of them is responsible for its functions. And scientists also found that they also influence your chances of a successful conversation with someone at a public event.
So, if you go up to someone in a club with loud-sounding music and say something in his (or her) right ear, you have a much better chance of making this person listen than if you speak in your left ear. Researchers have really tested their theory in a club, not a laboratory.
It is still not clear why people are much more susceptible to things said on the right side. And this approach is unlikely to work with a deaf man in his right ear.
3. Loves? Does not love?
One study conducted by specialists from the Universities of Virginia and Harvard showed that women are more attracted to men whose intentions were not clear.
Surprisingly, their level of attractiveness was even higher than that of men who clearly showed interest in the ladies participating in the experiment. So the best way to be more attractive to a girl is to confuse her about your attitude to her.
2. The higher the voice, the lower the level of appeal
Although the media and films tend to portray subtle and sonorous voices as sexier, science has found that men do not like it so much in reality.
According to a 2013 study, a female voice sounded attractive when it was "hoarse and moderately high."
This does not mean that you need to speak in a very low and rude voice, but do not squeak like Mickey Mouse if you want to make a good impression on the person you are talking to.
1. Try to look proud. Or happy.
In a 2011 survey, researchers gave participants about 1,000 photos of people of the opposite sex and asked them to rate their appeal.
- Ladies called the men in the photo the most attractive when they showed pride, but the happy male faces seemed the least attractive to them.
- For their part, men called the most attractive women who looked happy, and the least attractive - those who exuded a sense of pride.
